Have you ever wondered how you talk to yourself during the day? Through meditation, I’ve reflected many times on the negative thoughts within me. I realized how my inner voice often criticized both others and my surroundings. This reflection was meaningful and gave me important insights. As we all know, a negative and judgmental mind is neither helpful nor loving.
A Surprising Discovery
After examining my judgmental thoughts, I noticed positive changes—especially in how I interacted with others. I became more open, logical, and accepting, free from fear. My friendships grew stronger, and I felt that people approached me in a more open and trusting way.
Later, our meditation guide assigned the group a task: to reflect on our judgmental thoughts. At first, I thought, “I barely need this,” but I decided to give it a chance anyway. That’s when I came to a surprising realization—the same critical voice was still there but was now mostly directed at myself.
When the Inner Voice Becomes a Burden

While building my own business, I discovered how this voice constantly tried to pull me down. It told me I would fail and didn’t deserve success. During periods with fewer projects, it overwhelmed me, asking why I even thought I could succeed. When I made mistakes, it mocked me: “I told you so. See? You’re a failure.”
In reality, I was far from a failure. I worked hard, delivered to my clients, and always completed my tasks. But I had clung to that critical voice, believing it was a necessary driving force for success. The realization that it was doing more harm than good changed everything.
Let Kindness Be Your Guide

Now, I have a new task: this voice is no longer allowed to follow me through life’s uncertainties, failures, successes, and challenges. I would never speak to my child, a friend, or my partner the way I had been speaking to myself. Someone would surely step in to protect them if I did.
I am grateful for the mistakes I’ve made because they’ve taught me life’s greatest lessons. Taking on new challenges can be daunting, but doing so with a kind and accepting inner voice is life-changing.
Write Your Letter of Resignation

If you’re reading this, take a few minutes to look inward and become aware of how you talk to yourself. Do you scold yourself for mistakes? Do you tell yourself you’re not good enough, incompetent, or that you deserve less?
Take the first step by writing a letter of resignation to your inner boss and embrace a more peaceful mind—one that guides you and shields you from anxiety.
Dear Inner Boss,
I am writing to formally resign from my position. My time in your company has been far from enjoyable, and I have officially accepted a new role. Please begin my resignation process so I can notify my new employer.
Best regards,
Hildur
Are you interested in meditation? Learn more at Stockholm Meditation.
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